Losing Strategy #1: Being Right

Winning an argument often feels good. There’s that moment of recognition that you matter, that your perspective counts. It’s so easy to get pulled into the trap of wanting things to be right. After all, if you’re right, your partner will finally see things clearly, and maybe then you’ll feel more connected. A kind of happily ever after ending.

Of course, that’s not how it works.

Focusing on being right usually creates distance, frustration, and burnout. The harder you chase accuracy, the more disconnected the relationship feels.

Try finishing this statement for yourself:
In my experience, the more I push on being right, the more I…

It’s not easy to let go of being right, I know.
But what if we do an experiment here?

What if you replaced that losing strategy with a winning one?

When you shift from proving your point to understanding each other’s world, things start to change. The conversation becomes more about understanding each other.

Understanding is understanding.

When you understand each other, you can’t help but become more connected to each other. And now who cares about being right?!