Subtle Habits that Lead to Disconnection

I’m surrounded by friends, coworkers, even family, yet I still feel this deep disconnection. Why does it feel like I’m alone, even when I’m not?

 People can be around you, and you can still feel alone. Proximity does not equal connection.
You might meet countless people and never feel a true sense of connection.
You might be in a room full of friends, yet the conversation stays at the surface level.
On the flip side, you could have just one or two friends and feel deeply seen and held.

From my perspective, it’s not about the quantity of relationships but rather the quality of the connection.

A good test of this is to ask yourself: Have you shared this feeling with your friends? Why not?

 How do you show up in your relationships: guarded, partially, or with courage? What do you bring to these relationships?
Do you show love when you witness courage in others?
Are you aware of your dynamics, patterns, or the walls that create disconnection?

It’s very tempting for our mind to say: “Something must be wrong with me for feeling this way.”
Perhaps it’s not that something is wrong with you: it’s that you’re not engaging in the moments that create connection, such as being present, courageous, and open.

Showing up this way is incredibly challenging, and our mind often offers the same old narrative: “Something must be wrong with me.” While that story can feel compelling, what if you could make room for it and still show up with courage anyway?

This could look like (among many other things):

• Reaching out to a friend and saying, “I’ve been feeling lonely, and I just wanted to share that with you.”
  

• Expressing appreciation or love, even when it feels vulnerable: “I’m grateful for you,” or “I really value this friendship.”